Why do we hide our emotions?
Because they are related to events which caused us to feel shameful, inadequate or hurt in some way.
We are born confident and excited, as we grow up we gain many subtle limits and beliefs from our families and people of influence.
Sometimes these subtle beliefs later become less subtle and have a huge impact on our lives, leading to unhappiness, illness, emotional issues, depression, failure to achieve, repeating negative patterns, unstable relationships and so on.
All of these can be attributed to a conflict in our “personal program” of thought processes and beliefs.
“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” – Albert Einstein
A very good point, so what can we do about it?
We can learn to listen to our hearts with our feelings and our quiet mind.
In any challenging situation, always check what is our heart’s desire ?
Our mind may be re-minding us of time or financial deadlines, our heart may be telling us the current problem is not important or we should really be in a very different job.
If this conflict exists, we are stressed, with a possible route to illness if we do not resolve this conflict.
If we decide to “not listen to our heart” that does not mean the conflict has gone!
Why are we emotionally confused?
“The only thing that interferes with my learning is my education.” – Albert Einstein
Most of us are “well educated”, but it is 100% intellectual education.
Where is our emotional education?
We are simply not trained to understand our emotions or feelings anywhere in our educational system.
We may gain some insight into how other people “feel” or be told how we should “feel”
In practice, we are the only person who actually knows how we feel !
Simply being told how we should feel in any situation may generate a sense of confusion, guilt or even shame.
This emotional behaviour pattern stays with us the rest of our lives unless we are forced to deal with it through a personal crisis, or choose to work with it when we feel the need to change.
A personal crisis becomes an opportunity to emotionally educate ourselves for perhaps the first time in our lives.
But stress and illness are bad!
There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so”. -William Shakespeare, “Hamlet”
Stress and illness are an opportunity to explore our emotions and find why we are stressed or ill.
There is no “Good” or “Bad” simply feeling or emotion.
When we learn to understand and work with our emotions, it is not unusual to see the “problems” in our life disappear.
I have known clients to call me with “big problems” in their lives.
Within a short time when I have helped connect them to their hearts and ask them to look at these problems from their heart connection, they have said they are no longer important or at least less significant.