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5 key techniques to say NO and be positively assertive

ByJim

Being able to say NO assertively is an essential skill for all. Assertiveness is not simply for dominant personalities in positions of authority. Or bullies! Being assertive means taking control of your personal space, recognising your personal boundaries and staking your claim to them. Our ability to say NO assertively should be a first level…

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Why is it hard to say NO?

ByJim

A friend of advanced years did not know how to say NO! He had too many visitors and interruptions to his work. “John ” said that saying NO! never worked for him. I asked him to say a firm NO! to me. It was totally unconvincing, he obviously did not mean it! When he said…

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Mind Reading in 20 seconds

ByJim

Stage magicians read minds regularly. I never thought I could do it! Does our body show what we are thinking? Absolutely yes according to my personal experience. I took part in a simple NLP ( Neuro-Linguistic Programming ) workshop exercise. The result was that I apparently read somebody’s emotions and memories in about 20 seconds!…

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How Can I Trust Them?

ByJim

How can we trust somebody when they behave unusually, especially positively? We may experience conflicting thoughts and feelings, especially in our heart, stomach and throat? Our feelings are our best guide, they have helped us survive for millions of years. We can access our feelings through the “space between the thoughts” where we can connect…

Are You Breathing Correctly?

ByJim

Our first confirmation to others of being fully alive is to take a deep breath and scream. It is a completely natural subconscious activity which “keeps us alive” The trouble is, by adulthood most of us have forgotten to breathe properly ! Are you breathing correctly? Try a brief exercise. Place one hand flat against…

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Stress solutions

ByJim

How old beliefs can lead to stress and with possible solutions. As we grow we change our habits and usually change our beliefs through experience. We may reach a stage where our forward progress and confidence really drops without any obvious reason. This could be due to our “old beliefs” no longer protecting or supporting…